1) Allow yourself to grieve. Cry, be sad, angry, eat too much junk food, sleep. Do #allthethings. What you have been through is hard, and it is normal to have an array of feelings. You can be upset with yourself, with them, etc. Maybe you are even happy that you aren't there anymore (see #10). Just remember not to bash/badmouth your last employer....especially on Social media...that is never a good idea!!! Besides, you don't ever want to burn your bridges!!
2) Allow yourself go over things (what happened? What went wrong?, etc). If losing your job was your "fault", ask yourself; what could I do better, etc? It is ok to acknowledge your "faults". It will help for your next time.I know this might be hard, but it will probably help for your next job. This is something that I have done before (a few times). However, don't spend too much time obsessing about it, ether. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on.
4) Have some down time; have a pity pity, but only for awhile. No one likes hanging out with a pity party for one. Not even the person holding said party. However, I feel that it is ok to have one, as long as it doesn't last for long (a few weeks is more than enough, IMHO). Two weeks might be enough :) But hey, if it lasts longer, that is ok, too! Just don't invite others :)
5) Pick up and move on. Learn from what happened (if it was your "fault"), and move on. Try not to let too many days/weeks go by before starting your new job search. As T.Swift says, "shake it off"!
6) Turn to Scripture/Prayer. Yes, I know this sounds cliche, but it really does work. Honest. Find a Bible plan on job loss; a devotional book, anything that will encourage your soul.
7) Find someone to talk to. I have talked to a few people about my recent job loss, and they have been nothing but helpful, insightful, and supportive. I have talked a lot with "my" teacher, and it is interesting to get her side of things. I know she is going to miss me, but she agrees (along with me), that there are lots of areas for me to grow in! I also have talked to my brother and SIL about it, and it they have both been extremely helpful.
8) But don't talk to too many people about it. I have learned to not say too much about my work/career to everyone in my life. It is too exhausting, and they don't need to know. Sometimes, they don't even understand, so I try not to bore them with it, plus #boundaries!
9) Decide how you want to tell people. No matter if it was your "fault" that you were let go, or if it was due to $, Covid, etc; you can tell people your own reason that you were let go. No one will be the wiser.
10) You can/you might even be (even just a bit!) happy! Maybe you are just exhausted, or you weren't really enjoying your job anymore. As with most places, there are probably things that you didn't like about it (or about the place itself...people, politics). Let yourself enjoy a) not being at work, and b), not working! Again, as with #4 and #5, don't let too many days and weeks go by without AT LEAST starting on your resume/looking for work!
11) It is ok to not know what to do next in/for your career. I honestly have days where I don't know what I want to do for/as my next job! It can be mentally draining trying to figure out what you want to do next. This last job has me wondering if I should do something similar, or something completely different, and that is ok!
12) You might not want to be social (though no one "should" be having gatherings, anyway!). That is totally ok!!! Essentially, you "broke up" with your job; which really, is an extension of yourself. Don't worry about feeling that you HAVE to go out/be with people!
I hope these tips you (or someone you know) help in guiding you to the next phase of your (job/work search) life!
1 comment:
Well said and good tips.
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