Monday, May 22, 2017

CIAW 2017 (Over a Week Late): Infertility Is Rewarding

CIAW ended on Mother's Day this year, and I had hoped to have had written something in infertility around this time, but I never got around to it. Well, better late than never, right? I don't think that I will be writing anything that hasn't been already written (or that I have written) about it, but you can never write too much about it, so, here I go (again)....

Infertility affects 1 in 6 Canadian couples. It can range from low (or no) sperm in the man, to, PCOS in the woman, to unexplained infertility. I am finding, thanks to Social Media, blogs, and celebrities making it a bit more of a mainstream topic, I think the stigma is lessening, but sadly, few people still like to talk about it. Everyone asks if you have kids. They will often ask why. I still find these two questions difficult. What do you say? How do you say it eloquently, and so that you are both "comfortable"? I still have no idea on how go about it. Infertility has affected my family. Three out of 7 of my siblings (including myself) are infertile (and that's who we know for sure...there are two siblings who may or may not be affected). Infertility has no respecter who it affects. It doesn't care if you are rich or poor, what colour you are, where you live, on how much you want kids, and it certainly doesn't care about your feelings. It sucks the life right out of you. It punches you in the gut when you least expect it. It drains your bank account. It messes with your feelings. It messes with your relationships; both family and friends. It crumbles your world. It destroys your dreams. It makes holidays a lot sadder. If you are able, you may be able to adopt, have a surrogate, or even foster. It doesn't "fix" the problem, but it will make it easier. Or maybe it won't.

I have, however, have come to think of infertility as rewarding...it comes with its own benefits. Woooah! What, you say? How can something so dark, depressing and depleting rewarding? Now, before I get any hate emails, please bear with me...

It can be rewarding....

you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, wherever you want
you can serve in church, your community, and not worry about having to get kids ready
you can sleep in
two words: cheese puffs for dinner
two more words: Popcorn for dinner
you can watch tv (and whatever you want) in peace..without kids interrupting
you can say for hours at a coffee shop
you can shop for hours
you know others' pain
you can work long hours (if you chose or have to)
you can listen to you own music in the car or at home (hello..no Barney)
no set meal schedule
you only have to get yourself ready for work
all day beach day
exercise when you want, and for ever how long you want
long hikes without kids whining
long road trips without kids whining
you only have to spend money on yourself
travel
who want to clean the house every day?
adult conversations without kids interrupting

I am sure there are countless more than I am forgetting, but I think you catch my drift. Yes, it sounds like these are more like perks, but I think of them as rewards and perks. Would I chose this path for myself? No, but this chose me, or rather, the Lord chosen this for me. Am I happy about it? Not really, but I think this was what was supposed to happen. I am supposed to be in my job working with kids...am able to be the fun, cool, aunt....to help out in the church ministry...it isn't easy, but at times, its is rewarding. And I am ok with that.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Wedding Weekend

I thought I should probably post a bit about my very exciting trip to Calgary last weekend! My cousin's who I am very close to) daughter got married, and A and I were invited to go. He doesn't like to go to large family events, and I do pick my battles, but I really wanted to go. I was going to drive out with Vienna, but we thought it would be too expensive (yes, I am poor...all.the.time). In the end A and K ended up going, so I went with them. I was able to take Friday off, and I went to A and K's house Thursday night, so we could all get up and leave and some insane hour in the morning. Well, I ended up getting a cold a few days before, and I was so not impressed, so I started taking meds like they were going out of style. I ended up putting on some Thieves balm that my student's mom gave me a few weeks back. And let me tell you...it worked!

I didn't sleep well the night before, due to V coming in late (due to helping a friend deliver her baby, she ended up coming with us, instead of going out the day earlier with J and C), and my not feeling well, so I think I got like 2 hours sleep. We ended up leaving at 330 am! Ugh! I did manage to sleep...H? Not so much. The trip went well (though we were squishy), and we only made two or three stops, and got to Calgary around 12. First stop was to see my grandparents. Grandpa fell last spring, and since then, he has been getting worse with this dementia..so much that Grandma couldn't take care of him due to her own health issues. I was so glad that I was able to see him again. I was also glad that I saw him last year (you can read about that trip here). It was almost a year to the wknd (and a year ago MD wknd) that I was in Calgary. I think I have counted that I have only been to Calgary 6 yrs since I moved nearly 13 years ago (I don't get out much!). I am so glad that I seen G-pa last year, so that I wouldn't be so shocked to see on how we was doing this year. I would have loved to have spent time with him, but we only had so much time, and that was the day that had been allotted for them (and they knew that). We spent about 4 hours with them, and H was so good! We all got nice visits in, and we got to see where my grandma's new place was. She has just moved in to be closer to him (separate wing, but still super close). After leaving them, we went to our cousins and his wife's place to have burgers and chips and all kinds of food. It was a nice evening. We got back to my aunt and uncle's (my cousin's parents) just up the street. I think I went to sleep as soon as my head hit the pillow.



Saturday was Wedding Day!! Uncle Rick fed us a lovely brunch, and then we all got read to go. Vienna did my hair, which turned out quite nicely. We left for the wedding around 1. The ceremony was lovely, and M was beautiful! Her dress was a mermaid-style lace dress, which I am not normally not a huge fan of, but she looked really amazing!! Between the ceremony and reception, our cousin-in-law (yes, it IS a real word!) invited us over to their house. We ate more (b/c clearly, we don't eat enough!), and had a nice visit. The reception was held in a Austrian club hall, in which they had decorated really nice. We had a nice buffet...I think my favourite was the prime rib...yum!, and cheesecake for dessert. Due to a mix up on who could have the wedding cake, I didn't get any, but since I am not a huge cake fan, I wasn't super sad. We all danced until 10:30, and came home around 11 pm.

                                                  Vienna did a great job of my hair!
                                                          Vienna and I all ready to go!
                                              C, myself, V, J, and K right after the ceremony.

                                                           The ceremony
                                                    I miss living in Calgary sometimes.
                                  I took this of the head table. It is blurry, but I kind of like it.
                                               The close up of the head table.
                                               The centre pieces. I loved them!

                                                       The cookies were very good!
                                                   Where the gifts and cards went.


The next day, Sunday, we had brunch and my cousins house, and then at around 1:00, we left towards home. The trip home went well. Vienna went with J and C, so there was more room in the back. We made two stops on the way home, and arrived around 8:30. I stepped into the house around 9. All in all, it was a great trip, and I am SO glad I went!

                                           Leaving Calgary...love the foothills.

Five on Friday

Happy Victoria Day Weekend Sunday!!! I hope you are all having a great wknd. Ours is...well, interesting! Ha! I will talk more about it on Tuesday, when I do a weekend wrap up.

Here are the five from this last week:

1) Wedding Weekend

Last weekend (which I will do a post about that), I went to a family wedding, and I had a great time visiting with family and friends. I always love connecting with family who I don't see very often, and last weekend was  no exception. Plus, we had free food and wine :)



2) Four Day Weekend

This weekend is a four day weekend for our school. It was PD day on Friday, and we EA's didn't have  any training, and combined it with tomorrows holiday Monday, well, you do the math.



3) Warm Weather

We are finally getting some warm/hot weather!!! It was up to 30C today, and 26C yesterday. Anger put in the A/C in the house yesterday, and we love it.



4) Blogger-tunity

A blogger reached out to me last week, and asked if I wanted to participate in something, and I said no, but I am going to do something else, so, stay tuned!


5) New PJ Pants

Yah, I am really reaching for the bottom of the barrel here, but I really happy that I got new PJ pants yesterday, and I love them. A few years back (well, 15 yrs ago), I bought PJ's all.the.time...now, I just don't...mainly due to money, buy them as much. I bought a pair over a year ago, and these PJ pants were the first ones I have bought since then.

I could do the usual...IRL friends (Work, family, etc), FB Community, etc...but I am very grateful for them a lot (and I am very grateful), so it is nice to put a few "new" ones in the mix. I can say that I am grateful that I have a husband who does all the gardening, cooks (sometimes), bakes (sometimes), and cleans (sometimes!







Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Show and Tell Tuesday: Memory Lane

Happy Wednesday (or, as I like to call it, Happy-see-what-is-on-the-weekly-magazines-day)! My week is going MUCH better than last week....yay!!!

I am linking up with Andrea for this weeks Show and Tell Tuesday, and this week it is about Memory Lane.

I know must everyone (I went on a few blogs to see on how they were doing their posts), posted pictures, but I don't feee like doing that, bc I don't fee like going on Google, find picture, saving said picture..blah, blah :) I hope that most of you know what I am talking about...if not, well, Google it!!

I am a BC Country girl of the late 70's-80's, and let me tell you, those were the best!!!

Food, snacks, candy, and drinks:

Pudding pops, smal boxed cereal, tang (with ginger ale), hubba bubba gum, surprise bags, Orange Crush (yes, I realize that these are still around, but they are memories for me), those Dip-things, Nerds, candy rings, and I am sure there are more that I ate, but I can't remember..ha!

Books and Magazines:

As far as books go, I loved the Baby Sitters Club, Sweet Valley High, Nancy Drew, Sugar and Spice Series, and Cedar River Daydreams, and as I got older, it was the Janette Oke series. I didn't read ALL the books, I read a good bunch of them. With Magazines, well, I loved 'Teen, Seventeen, Y&M, Good Housekeeping, Chatelaine, and whatever else Mom had lying around.

Hobbies, Toys, and Games:

Puffy/scratch and sniff stickers, my toy apple, Game Boy (I personally didn't have one, but my brothers did, so I would play on it), Etch-a-Sketch, those water toys that had the buttons, my chair that my gramma bought me, this old wooden clock by Fisher Price, that still works!..Light Brights..My Little Pony, Holly Hobby, my diary that locked (oh, yes it did), Strawberry Shortcake, Care Bears, Popples, Cabbage Patch Kids, Teddy Ruxpin, Battleship, Snakes and Ladders, and Wheel of Fortune (on my friends computer), and yes, those large computers!

TV and Movies:

For someone who only had a few channels, who lived in the country, was home schooled, was pretty sheltered, and was a Christian, I sure watched my fair share of tv...so, here, goes..Family Matters, the Cosby Show, Alf, Different World, Different Strokes, Too Close for Comfort (I really wasn't allowed to watch it, but I would often watch with Mom), Golden Girls, Three's Company, Dallas, Y&R, Another World, General Hospital, All My Children (I would go downstairs and watch them in secret), Little House on the Prairie, Flintstones, Family Ties, Growing Pains, The Nanny, Fresh Prince of BelAir, Full House, Hawaii Five-0, Matlock, Murder, She Wrote, Home Improvement, Step By Step, Three's Company, Giligans Island, All in the Family, Get Smart, Major Dad, Beach Combers, Danger Bay, Degrassi Street/JR, High/High, Rescue 911, Unsolved Mysteries, as a younger child I also watched Today's Special, Polka Dot Door, Sesame Street, Mr. Dressup, Mr. Rodgers, Romper Room, Jeopardy, and as I got older...ER, Friends, and I sure there are more...as far as movies go?...Wizard of Oz, The Sound of Music, ET (though I never watched it), The Star Trek/Wars Series (I never watched those, either), and Anne of Green Gables. I am sure there are lots, but I don't remember. I didn't watch Saved By the Bell, or Head of the Class, though I guess I watched a few episodes. I also didn't watch the typical teen movies, Grease, Fame, Dirty Dancing, etc. I wasn't allowed.

Clothes/shoes:

Stirrup Pants, jelly shoes, lots of dresses (I had this "lemon chiffon" dress I wore as a young girl), jumpers, kangaroo jacket (hoodie), overalls, this pink parka/jacket-thing, and a jump suit.

Make up/Beauty/Accessories:

Bonne Bell, Caboodles (I don't remember if I had one, but I know they were all the rage), banana clips, scrunchy, curlers, I think i had a few jewelry boxes, chunky earrings, ribbons, perms, braces, mushroom cut, chap/lip stick, Exclamation Perfume, and lots of body powder, Yardley Suckle products, Noxema, and Ponds. I can't remember what brand names I had of perfumes and body powders, but I know I had a lot of them.

Musc: Steven Curtis Chapman, Amy Grant, Sandi Patti, Local Radio, Focus on the Family (it came on our radio), Adventures in Odyssey, Petra, and the Maranatha and Praise Music. I also loved Point of Grace, and Silverwind.

Stores: The Body Shop, (Lady) Foot Locker, Sears, Christian Book Stores (I shopped at one in Kamloops ALL the time), Toys n Wheels, Radio Shack, Zellers, Woodwards, Ardene's, Claire's (when I was a bit older), and Woolco. Of course, there were local stores that we would frequent.

I could go on and on about the pop culture, etc....but you can just Google that :)

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Five On Friday

Happy Cinco De Mayo (Weekend!)!! My nephew, H had his bday on Friday, so he is our CDM Baby. We are also having tacos/burritos tonight (Sunday).

Is anyone else happy that Friday is here? I am! It's been a week, and I am glad that the wknd is here!!! It's now Sunday afternoon/evening :) I have spent much of the weekend watching tv and on the computer, however, I did do some cleaning and some organizing, so it has been somewhat productive.

Here are the top fives from/of the week:


Class Field Trip

On Tuesday, our class wen not a field trip with another class to release some salmon that had been in the the school for the last couple of months. It was an all school day field trip, and it was a gorgeous day! We had hot dogs and marshmallow, and had a couple of walks, and enjoyed the sun.





A Caring Online/IRL Community

With me not feeling well, and just feeling tired and exhausted in general, it's been a bit of a tough week. I posted on Facebook that I felt like crying, and everyone was so sweet and caring, asking on how I was, etc. Everyone at work was so kind and caring, too.

Midnight Mocha

My friend took me to Starbucks on Friday after school, and we both at the midnight mint mocha. It was really good!!!

Walk/Date with Anker

Thursday night, Anker and I went for a walk. We hadn't done something like that in awhile, due to his not being able to get outside when it is chilly. We had a lovely walk and talk. Last Saturday, we went to the Green Expo together, which was nice.




Warm Weather

I think spring has finally arrived! It sure took long enough!!!


I hope you had a great week, and that your wknd is going well!! Here's to a much better week than last. I am linking with:







Tuesday, May 2, 2017

A Tale of Two Weekends (and Too Much TV)/Let's Be Friends Blog Hop

I am slooooowly learning to love Mac :) Or, at least, put up with it. I actually am rather liking it (though, I haven't used any office/word processing software, and I think that that would drive me insane learning all about it), and there are things about that I can see why people would love a Mac over a PC.

I seem to be not into blogging as much...not really sure why. I didn't do a FOF post, nor did I do a TToF, nor did I do a Show and Tell Tuesday last Tuesday. I won't even open the Mac at times...choosing only to use my phone and or Tablet (I can play Train game on the Tablet, and it's faster...yay!!). I finally put in a dvd into the Mac the other day, and I really like on how it works...it is actually simpler than my PC...or at least, more efficient. Go figure!

So...our last two weekends...let's digress, shall we?

TWO weekends ago (April 21-23):

Friday: After work, I met K at the library for a few minutes, then I grabbed gas, and came home, and then Anker and I went to our friends place a half hour from our house for supper. We had a lovely dinner of Chicken Cordon Bleu, salad, asparagus and scalloped potatoes, with a chocolate torte cake for dessert. We stayed until nearly 10 pm. We even enjoyed the Northern Lights on the way home.

Saturday: I actually woke up at a half-decent time, and tried to meet A, K, and H at the first Farmers' Market of the year, but they had left already, so I wandered it alone. It was fun to get out and see the stalls, etc. I also got a yummy scone, and I bought a tomato plant. I ran a few errands, and I was back by 12. I came back for a bit, and then went back out to McD's to grab a snack/lunch, and read magazines. Then I went to the library. I came home and watched much too much tv, and then my friend came over and we had planned on going for a walk, but we ended up going for a drive, then a short walk instead, as it was raining. We had a great visit, and went exploring, which is always fun.

Sunday: I went to church, as I had to do nursery, and then I went over to A, K, and H's for lunch, and a chat. I think I came home soon after, and spent some time with Anker outside. I ended up having our next door neighbour over for a glass of red wine. I watched tv, and read magazines, and then went to bed.

Now, this last weekend:

Thursday: I actually came down with some weird heartburn/acid reflux-thing starting on Wednesday, and I still have it. I ended up leaving early from work on Thursday, and I came home and had a nap. I nearly went to the hospital, but I thought I would feel better in the morning. I did. Sort of.

Friday: I ended up staying home, though I probably could have gone it. It was nice to have an extra day to try to sleep it off, and really keep an eye on it. I ran one quick errand, but other than that, I stayed home. I watched more tv, and I read mags. And yes, I ended up popping Pepto-Bismal and Gaviscon all wknd.

Saturday: Anker and I slept in, and then we went to a virtual/walk-in Dr, to get Anker's meds refilled (long story). We were there for over an hour, and I ended  up reading most of my magazine while I waited. We then wen to the Green Living Expo, which was really fun. I usually go to things for the free swag, and for the draws :) Anker got some plants, and ended up meeting the leader of the Green Party, and he said that he enjoyed talking with him (we somehow got separated, so I wasn't able to be involved in that opportunity). We came home, and then I went back out to the library, and then came home, and watched more tv.

Sunday: Saturday night, I started feeling really bad. I almost went to the hospital again. Anker thought that it wasn't a big deal, but once I started getting heart pains, I got all worried and called our local BC Health Link Line. They suggested that I go in, so I drove myself (yes, Anker stayed home...yah, I wasn't too happy with him for a few hours), and was in and out in just over 3 hours. They did an ECG, and blood work (when I went seven years ago, they didn't even do an O2 Sat level!!), so I was happy that they at least did that. They also checked my O2 Sat, and my BP (all four tests came out fine). They said that I have heartburn/acid reflux, and gave me some meds (it is an OTC med, but I took it as an RX), and I have made an appt with my doctor for next week. It still hurts when I eat and sometimes drink, and I still cough when I eat as well, but at least my HB is gone, and I don't have any problems when I sleep (coughing, etc).  I grabbed my meds, and a decaf drink at Starbucks, and then came home. I watched too much tv, and went to sleep.

So, those are my/our last couple of weekends. It seems that I will have to do an over haul of my diet...no/little sugar, little to no wheat, and very little caffeine. That makes me sad.  #firstworldproblems. I need to do a bit of research on this, and I have joined a few HB/GERD groups on FB, and I just joined Patient GERD forum (I was already in/on this, for another forum), so I hope that I will be able to glean some info.

Yes, I watch too much tv. I record WAY too many shows (I actually just deleted a bunch without watching them). I mainly watch movies on W, and Bravo, a few shows on TLC (I love My 600lb Life), Judge Judy, Y&R, some cooking shows, and of course, Grey's and Big Bang. I also love Dateline, but I didn't end up watching a lot of them, so I deleted about 20 episodes. I am sure they will come back this summer. I find that I won't even watch movies that I get out of the library, nor will I watch my own movies very much...as I am watching too much tv, and yes, it gets overwhelming. So, I just delete the shows I don't want to watch, and watch what I want to. Life is too short to worry about such frivolous issues, which really aren't issues at all. Speaking of movies...I watched Fences that other day, and I was underwhelmed, I gotta say. It was ok, and all, but it wasn't my favourite movie, though Viola did do a great job!

I am also going to link up with Tiffany @ The Dwelling Tree for Let's Be Friends Blog Hop!


Sunday, April 23, 2017

Five On Friday

Here are my faves from this week!

1) New (to me) Computer

Anker gave me his old one, and got a new-ish computer. I am learning aaaalll about Mac :) So far, not a huge fan, but what can you do? It was free!!!

2) Awesome Friends and Co-Workers

I love my co-workers at school so much!!! We are all there for each other when needed. I love that we can all support and learn from each other. Last night, we went out to my friends (we have been friends for over 10 yrs, and met through church) for supper, and we had a great evening. She gave us a bunch of meat from their calf (who is now dead, obvs), so we have a ton of beef, now.

3) Unicorn Frap

Ok, it wasn't my favourite, but it was fun, in the fact that it is super popular right now, and it sure is pretty!

4) Chocolate

I gotta say, I have OD'd on chocolate more than anyone should. Ugh. But it was SO GOOD!!! I am loving Lindt/Lindor, now. Yum!!!

5) Good TV

I am PVR'ing (but not necessarily watching) SO many good shows right now. I watch shows from HGTV, Food Network, TLC, Vision, among others.

Well, those are my faves from this week!