Still Alive

 Yup, I am still alive. I just can't be bothered to blog. Btw work, life, Hallmark movies, reading magazines, and who knows what else, well...I just haven't had it in me. I have been at my new job for just over 3 months. It has been a bit of a rough go; I'm not gonna lie, but I guess I am growing and changing, so that's cool. Also...how can it be Christmas already???? Here is a picture of our tree :)

I am kind of hoping that with this little bit of blogging, I MIIIIIGHHHHT just get into the spirit of  blogging? Maybe. Hopefully. One day.

September, Salsa, Soft Dairy, Sushi, Scrunchies, (Pumpkin) Spice, Sausages, Sunflowers, Skies, Sleep, and a Surprise!

 Well, I probably should at least do ONE blog post this weekend!!! I haven't been in to blogging much lately. The only thing I seem to be interested in doing these last few weeks I watch TV :)

Anyway, September is HERE! I have FINALLY have accepted and embraced fall, or as I like to call it, FallTumn! I am still wearing my sandals, and sometimes, my capri pants, but I think those will come to an end soon enough, I'm sure.

As I stated in my last post, Anker made salsa. We will both admit, however, that it isn't his best batch. It seems to be missing something. Anyway, at least it gave him something to do, something to use up our tomatoes, and it will save us from buying salsa for another year.

Last Saturday, my friend Adela and I went for our monthly sushi date. We are trying every sushi place in town. We tried Sushi Royal Tokyo, and it was good! I wouldn't say it was my favourite place in town, but it was good. Their tempura was delicious!!!

Before we met up, I went to our local Farmers' Market (for the first time this season), as I wanted to get some awesome scrunchies! There is a local lady in town who makes scrunchies, and I love them! I was given one by my SIL last Christmas, and I bought two this summer, and I wanted to get some more. If you are local (or semi-local), check out S. Design. I also decided to grab some sausages, and some cheese (soft dairy), which are both delicious!!! Kamloops Farmers' Market is a fun-filled market that goes from early April, to the end of October. I don't know why I didn't go more this year; especially since I wasn't working for most of it. Anyway, it was fun wandering around, and checking out the vendors. I bought some Terroir Cheese, and Kurt's Meats (I can't find their link).

There is pumpkin spice EVERYTHING floating about, and I am not sad about it. I got the first PSL in the form of a frap. YUM! Anker made some pumpkin waffles, and they are really good!!

Of course...I love me some sunflowers!!! There were some beautiful sunsets this year....:) I wish I could have caught them all; and/or done them justice!

                                                     ...and now, for the surprise! 

I have a new job! I am working with our local health authority, and I started after the Labour Day weekend. I had the interview online, and I was pleasantly surprised when I got the call to say that I had the job! H was the first to know, since I was looking after the boys when they called. Ha! It is a mix btwn a desk job, and driving around the community. I am starting my 4th week tomorrow! I have my own (mostly) office, ID/badge, parking pass, email, voicemail, cell phone, I work downtown, I get in a walk every day, plus my job is very interesting. Lots to learn, and VERY different than what I am used to. This is my first real office job (though I have worked at call centres before, so I guess that is kind of like an office job), so that is a new thing as well. It is s temporary position, which will probably be for a few months or so, or it could be longer. It is M-F 830-430, which is great, and kind of a first (at least in ages!). Other than my 12 hours shifts a few years ago, I hadn't worked 8 hours in a long time! It is a lot of getting used to (my evenings are usually me watching tv, and the weekends have me being VERY lazy!). I am finding that I am very tired at the end of the day. I mostly just watch tv, I might run an errand or two, or say to to K and the boys on the way home, and then I am home for the night. I don't even go to the library much anymore! I am also finding that I am giving things that I don't fully enjoy. I have given up on reading some of my less favourite magazines, I don't clean as often as I should (but I do do laundry!), nor do I go out as often to socialize. I am joking that I am just working, eating, sleeping, and watching tv :) It is a union, which is good, and the $ is a blessing as well! My co-workers are nice (we are actually different divisions, but we share a building), but we all kind of do our own thing. I am very thankful for this job, and I am excited to see how the Lord uses me in the new position, and how long He he has and wants me there for!

Summa Time!

I am going through my blog, and I have posted very little this summer. I haven't felt much like blogging, and to be honest, I haven't done a ton (a lot of people have been camping, having holidays, etc, despite COVID), but we have pretty much laid low. I looked for work (albeit VERY slowly!), looked after the boys, went to the library (when it FINALLY reopened), met with my friends for coffee and dinner, went on a few walks, went to a couple of beaches (Lac La Jeune once, and Chase Beach twice), and I was going to go camping with my friend and her kids, but that didn't end up working out (more on that later). I had hoped to house/dog sit for some friends, but that didn't work out (actually A LOT of things didn't work out this summer), which was a bummer, but I also looked after my nephews, so that kept me busy, at least. 

It was defiantly a different summer; with covid, and my looking for work. Anker and I didn't do a ton, either. I did go to the ranch 3x, but two of them were b/c I was looking after kids. Oh well! It was still nice to get out! Emily and I continue to watch movies once or twice a week. It is nice to have that neighbourly connection. She has come to church with me a few times, which has been really nice.

And as of 2020 hasn't been crazy enough, we got the smoke from the US fires. Ugh! At least it isn't horrible. Thankfully, there hasn't been a ton of fires in BC this year! Last Saturday, I met with what I call my "Old Ladies Group", where we "ended" the summer with a bbq and an evening on the patio. It was lovely to catch up before the busyness of September starts.

Labour Day weekend, I went out to the ranch for a few days. Anker stayed home, and I ended up staying at my aunt and uncle's, as they were away as well. It was a lovely few days, of eating, sleeping, reading, visiting, and movie watching. A and K were up with the boys, too, so we spent some time together. The weather was PERFECT, and it was nice just to "chill and grill" for a few days. I was going to dedicate an entire post LD, but I just wanted to get it out ASAP, b/4 Christmas came! Besides, it wasn't that exciting of a weekend (at least, not that much that it warranted an entire post of its own!)!

Speaking of Christmas, I never did talk about our Victoria Christmas TWO Christmases ago....oops! Well, we went to Victoria (we flew on Christmas Day!), spent time with his sister and her family. Ate, opened pressies, relaxed, made gingerbread houses, visited, and of course, slept. I think Anker was "fighting" with his new Mac that our BIL gave him, which caused me stressed, so I went for a walk. Oh, and we watched movies, and we walked around the harbour, and had a nice dinner one evening. One day, I met up with L and his family. A was pregnant with E at the time, so it was "only" N and L. We all had a lovely day wandering around V-town. Anker spent the day with K going to the BC Aviation Museum, which if we had been there a few more days, I would have gone, but since that was the only day that worked best for L and his family to come down, I chose to visit them. The Christmas in Victoria was lovely, and we will probably do it in another few years.

I think this was while I was spending a few days at my friend's; house/dog/plant sitting! Oh yah, I did have another set of days hanging out at my friend's for a few days in July! Murphy and I always have a fun time together!!! That was a lovely few days of eating, sleeping, meeting with friends, and I think I also met up with another former (but we are still friends!) work/school family; where we had dinner in the park. The weather was pretty cool here, but we finally got some hot weather the end of July, and into August. K and I took the boys to the river a few times, which was fun. Jill and I had our annual "Jill and April's Day of Fun", which I will try my darnedest to get posted! My friend, Adela, and I are trying to go for sushi once a month. She and I are also planning on going for a day trip to my parents' in a couple of weeks! 

I also took the boys to one of the parks, where there is also a wading pool. K needed to get some stuff done, and I was feeling bad for her, and I was kind of bored, so I offered to take the boys. We went to the park and wading pool first. Then we went to Scoopz, and then H begged me to let them play at the park next to the parlour, so I decided I would let them. Bad mistake. J decided that that was a great time to go the bathroom (ummm..yah...Thanks, Covid, for allowing ALL bathrooms to be shut down!), and then as we were leaving, J decided that he didn't want to go home, and he had a trantrum. So yah, fun times! A very tired aunty dropped the boys off! Hey, it was a memory...what can I say?? It was a fun way to close out the summer!!!

I have been enjoying a few sips from Starbucks, and of course Dollar Drink Days from McDs!!!

I haven't been journalling as much lately, nor have I been reading books (or even magazines) as much, either. I did, however, sit out by the river and read for over an hour yesterday, so that was nice. I haven't been doing a ton of "stories" on IG, either. I have still been posting, though, so go ahead and take a look, and get "caught up" on what we have been doing! We still are still running the a/c and fans, in our house, car and office (more on that in another post). I am still wearing capris and sandals. Laundry is still free :) I have been watching A LOT of Hallmark movies, along with some cooking shows, some JJ, and I have also started reordering "Murder, She Wrote". I have also started watching "Counting On'. I really like it. I remember watching "19 Kids and Counting, and I am really enjoying watching the kids grow up, get married, and raise families of their own.

We had our 5th Cali-versary in August. We love her so much!!! Just now, she was "helping" blog! She sure loves her pets, especially at night.  We love you, Cali-Girl!

Oh yes...Anker has been making salsa, as we have had a billion tomatoes!!! He made jam, and I made two fruit crisps, and helped with freezing some beans and carrots!

More to come.....plus an annoucement!

BV and Peri/Pre-menopause: It's not for the Faint of Heart

****Please note: this article contains medical/feminine issues and terms. If this stuff makes you queasy, then, feel free to move right along, and I won't be offended!****

I hate BV. I hate Peri/premenopause. They both are not very fun. I have posted about Peri/Pre-menopause before. You can read about it here; I have also written about BV here. Feel free to read those in order to "catch up".

I have had BV (Bacterial Vaginosis) on and off for years (if you don't know what it is, look it up). It is an infection (essentially) in the Vagina, and isI will have it for awhile, then it will go away. I have tried a few different things; antibiotics, which have only worked for a week or so, and then it comes back. I have also tried Gynalac vaginal gel, which helps, but when I am done with the treatment (which is also very expensive), it comes back after a day or two. I had tried drinking cranberry juice, and taking garlic pills, but they really didn't help much. About a couple of months ago, I decided to try taking the acedopholis every day, and although I forget it (I also don't take it with me when I go somewhere overnight), I have generally been taking it every day, and it seems to help with the smell some. I have been pretty consistent at taking the acedopholis lately; 1-2 a day, and i think that is what has kept it from getting bad again. It depends on my cycle; sometimes, it won't bother me for a few weeks, and other times, it is horrible! Right now, it has been not too bad; and i think i attribute it to taking the supplements! The pads also help with the smell, and to keep things dry, and the medication helps to tackle it if/when it gets really bad! I probably should try to omit sugar and probably yeast, but i just am not that disciplined! 

Then, there is the peri/pre menopause! This can be YEARS in the "making!! I am not even making this up! There is the spotting, the early arrival, the late arrival. The starting, the stopping. The heaviness (though, to be fair, I have had this all my life...#thankspcos), the lightness. The length of said period (no matter what the amount)! Then, there is being hot/cold, weird hormones (I will let you interepet that as you will!), weird food cravings, the being hungry when you shouldn't be hungry! THAT CRAP IS REAL! THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!!! This can last until you are in your 60s! I hope it doesn't last that long for me! I don't know if I can handle it!

The moral of the story is...be kind..someone you saw today is probably going through peri/pre-menopause!

Grieving, Healing, and Picking up After Job Loss

Let's face it: No one likes to lose their job, no matter how trying the job is! I have had a few job losses in my time; whether it was a lay off, let go, etc. It is stressful, hard, and even a bit sad. You didn't just lose your job; you have lost part of your identity; your friends; your community. I was thinking about this the other day, and I thought I would post a few tips that I have used regarding what I have through with job loss. Please know that I am no expert; I am not a counsellor, or a therapist...I just give tips based on experiences.

1) Allow yourself to grieve. Cry, be sad, angry, eat too much junk food, sleep. Do #allthethings. What you have been through is hard, and it is normal to have an array of feelings. You can be upset with yourself, with them, etc. Maybe you are even happy that you aren't there anymore (see #10). Just remember not to bash/badmouth your last employer....especially on Social media...that is never a good idea!!! Besides, you don't ever want to burn your bridges!!

2) Allow yourself go over things (what happened? What went wrong?, etc). If losing your job was your "fault", ask yourself; what could I do better, etc? It is ok to acknowledge your "faults". It will help for your next time.I know this might be hard, but it will probably help for your next job. This is something that I have done before (a few times). However, don't spend too much time obsessing about it, ether. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on.

4) Have some down time; have a pity pity, but only for awhile. No one likes hanging out with a pity party for one. Not even the person holding said party. However, I feel that it is ok to have one, as long as it doesn't last for long (a few weeks is more than enough, IMHO). Two weeks might be enough :) But hey, if it lasts longer, that is ok, too! Just don't invite others :)

5) Pick up and move on. Learn from what happened (if it was your "fault"), and move on. Try not to let too many days/weeks go by before starting your new job search. As T.Swift says, "shake it off"!

6) Turn to Scripture/Prayer. Yes, I know this sounds cliche, but it really does work. Honest. Find a Bible plan on job loss; a devotional book, anything that will encourage your soul.

7) Find someone to talk to. I have talked to a few people about my recent job loss, and they have been nothing but helpful, insightful, and supportive. I have talked a lot with "my" teacher, and it is interesting to get her side of things. I know she is going to miss me, but she agrees (along with me), that there are lots of areas for me to grow in! I also have talked to my brother and SIL about it, and it they have both been extremely helpful.

8) But don't talk to too many people about it. I have learned to not say too much about my work/career to everyone in my life. It is too exhausting, and they don't need to know. Sometimes, they don't even understand, so I try not to bore them with it, plus #boundaries!

9) Decide how you want to tell people. No matter if it was your "fault" that you were let go, or if it was due to $, Covid, etc; you can tell people your own reason that you were let go. No one will be the wiser.

10) You can/you might even be (even just a bit!) happy! Maybe you are just exhausted, or you weren't really enjoying your job anymore. As with most places, there are probably things that you didn't like about it (or about the place itself...people, politics). Let yourself enjoy a) not being at work, and b), not working! Again, as with #4 and #5, don't let too many days and weeks go by without AT LEAST starting on your resume/looking for work!

11) It is ok to not know what to do next in/for your career. I honestly have days where I don't know what I want to do for/as my next job! It can be mentally draining trying to figure out what you want to do next. This last job has me wondering if I should do something similar, or something completely different, and that is ok!

12) You might not want to be social (though no one "should" be having gatherings, anyway!). That is totally ok!!! Essentially, you "broke up" with your job; which really, is an extension of yourself. Don't worry about feeling that you HAVE to go out/be with people!

I hope these tips you (or someone you know) help in guiding you to the next phase of your (job/work search) life! 

Why Dancing, Makeup, Bikinis, Pageants, and Some Clothes are Dangerous for Kids

What do Wayfair, the Super Bowl, various award shows, Disney, Hollywood, and other sporting events have in common?

These events are HOT BEDS for sex trafficking!!! They live, breathe and drink it! There are many subliminal messages hidden in Disney and "family movies". If not to "lure" and "groom" your kids, at the very least, they send them hidden messages. Messages that kids don't need.

Then, there's the whole Hollywood/performer end of things. There are THOUSANDS of Hollywood actresses' (and actors), and celebrities whose photos on Social Media are chock FULL of sexual and provocatively. Look at the singers at the Super Bowl? JLo in a cage, and Shakira dancing and flailing about? Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Ariana Grande? Our kids see, hear and look up to them. Essentially, they are selling sex, all in the name of "art".

Here are some other scenarios that I see ALL the time on social media and in person;

A young girl, about 6 or 7 sits on the beach in her bikini.

A 10 year old has heavy make up on, and herself throwing her self on stage, all in the name of "dance".

A teen girl wears short shorts and a crop top.

A young girl "cheers" her way around the stadium.

An 8 yr old girl wears heavy make up, and a splashy outfit, while dancing on stage on her way to "win" the next pageant.

 

A young boy begins modelling in not so appropriate poses and outfits.

Two young brothers start a "Tick Tok" account.

These things, in my opinion, are the makings of 1) Immodesty of children (esp girls, and young women), and 2) kids being lured into sex trafficking, or at the very "least"; sexual predators online.

Please don't think that I think should dress like they are in a cult; fully clothed from head to toe. I don't don't even know what the "best" way to clothe your kids is. And, to be fair, sex traffickers/offenders don't really care how your kids dress; if they see your child, and want your child, they will find ways to get your child; however, there ARE ways to LESSEN that opportunity, and have your kids exploited on on "display".

In order to lessen the degree of online (or kidnapping) sexual abuse and predators online, there are ways to protect your kids:

Do not let them have ANY access to ANY Social Media platform; Pinterest (yes, even PT), FB, Snapchat, TickTok, IG, YT, and whatever other platforms there are. Kids under 15 DO NOT need a YT channel, an IG account, or SnapChat. I know that kids think they "need" a phone, and some sort of SM account, b/c all of their friends have one, but in all honesty, they don't. First off, they just don't need it. More screen time, useless time wasters, etc. I actually think that no child under 18 should have one, but I can see where and when a an older teen would want one (SM account/phone).  Now, please don't get me wrong; there are lots of GOOD, WHOLESOME, USEFUL and EDUCATION videos on most platforms. I know that there are parents and kids who have (and view) videos, and there are cases for doing these. But the key thing is that you're with your child while they make and view the videos. A blog mom who I follow  has made a YT account with her girls; they has control on what they do, say, and I am pretty sure she is in them as well. Again, YOU NEED to be with (or at least near) your child at ALL TIMES; this includes while they make (which is hopefully an educational/how-to, etc) and view videos! If your older teen gets a social media account, FOLLOW THEM! It is probably best to have your teen have a private account as well.When your kids who are wanting/needing access to iPad or the Internet for projects, make sure you are very near by; have the device near where you can see it/them. While growing up, my parents always had us be in the dining room or kitchen while working on the laptop or desk top :) Make sure your parental controls are on. I hear there are apps that parents can have, where they can track where and what their child is doing online, if your child has an iPhone or Android. I really only think that kids need a flip phone, anyway. 

I don't even feel that kids should play online games. You don't know what kind of friends your child is making online. Which brings me to another thing (which is similar to above); monitor your kids' online activities. I have already said this, but this is more the "social" aspect of it; watch what your kids are doing online; monitor what friends they make online. Don't assume that they are talking with their friends....this is how predators make their way into kids' lives. Monitor their IRL friendships as well. Who are they spending time with? Where do they go after school? Do they go to sleep overs?

Do not let your kids dance. Obviously, dancing for the Lord (and dance troops) is/are ok, but that should be under and adult's supervision, filled with skills and prevision.  I am less leery of kids being in Ballet, and there are probably less others out there that are less sexual. I would also suggest that you put little to know make up on them. And, for the love of everything, put some clothes on them! If you want your kids to have some make up on during the performance, then put it on right before they go on, and right after they get off. And they don't need the dark makeup on, either.

There are even some sports that I don't think that kids shouldn't be in; figure skating, for one (though I will have to admit, I wanted to be a figure skater when I was a kid!); gymnastics (obviously, I am talking about the upper level platforms, the lower level isn't as competitive, and the kids aren't as "made up") Once they get into major competition in these kinds of sports, that is when things get tough; make up, too little clothes, etc, not to mention what else happens (abuse, unhealthy practices, and poor self esteem). 

I feel that children shouldn't do cheerleading. This breeds so many problems, I don't even know where to begin. Makeup, skimpy outfits, and who knows what else.

Kids shouldn't do pageants. This is probably the worse thing that a child can do. Yah, no...let's just not go there!

Again, I am not saying that kids only need to go to Bible Studies and Youth Group; nor am I saying that kids can't do ANYTHING! There are TONS of things children can do! MOST sports, SOME screen/iPad time, reading real books, learn an instrument, garden, cooking, baking.  am saying that kids can do most anything, as long as it doesn't involve a lot of (unsupervised) screen time, social media, make up, throwing themselves around, and/or skimpy clothing. I just feel that these things can lead to immodesty, and more importantly, abuse, bullying, etc. 

Put a one piece (or, at the very least, a tankini) on your girl, and make sure your boys have decent swim shorts. Yes, allow your girls to try on make up and your fun clothes...but don't let them out of the house with them on.

I am not saying that you are a bad a parent if you allow your kids to do these things; I am not saying that you are a bad Christian/Faith-based parents if you are ok with these things. I just feel that allowing your child to do any or all of these things CAN breed a host of symptoms, and allow for predators to lure their way into your children's lives.

I know that I am not a parent, nor am I an expert, but I read, I watch, I listen. I talk with parents about these issues. There are kids being trafficked, bullied, and abused IN THEIR OWN HOME; right under their parents' noses! I am asking you to open your eyes; don't bury you head in the sand. Human trafficking is a very real thing! Observe your kids; talk to them; ask them questions. Get to know your kids, have conversations with them. Together, we can ALL end human trafficking, (online) bullying, and abuse. This starts at home.

                                 The opposite side/end of the sunset from the other night, looking East.

  I think this was taken in an Alberta Provincial park from when my sister and I took a trip 2 years ago.

Just to be Clear....

Regarding my post from the other day; I wanted to clarify a few things. First off, I am not saying that we should have ho-hum dum-drum lives. I think that in whatever circumstance we are in; in whatever stage of life that we are in, we are to "live our best lives", and (if we are Christian), spread the Gospel, live for Jesus, and if we haven't chosen that life; well, we are to be kind, and to look for reasons and opportunities to do good deeds, love, be kind, etc (as Christians, we should most definitely do that!!). 

All that I am trying to say is that we are not all called to foster, adopt (either domestically, or internationally); we're not all called to start an organization, be a missionary, ride around the world for a cause, go on marches and protests, or volunteer for Samartian's Purse, World Vision, or Compassion (you get the idea). We ARE, however, called to SEEK HIS WILL in ALL things; maybe He DOES want us to go to Africa; start up an new organization for social issues, or do "big things"! I am not saying that we have to live our regal 9-5 lives in our office; going to the same routines day in and day out; we need to find little things here and there that we can add beauty, light and grace to. We need to find things that we can do for others. 

We are also called to fight for injustice, the unborn, and speak up for what is right and wrong. We are not called to be lazy, have our head in the sand, and be ignorant or arrogant! We are not called to have "an ordinary life", but to embrace the extraordinary with the every day (does that make sense?? Probably not!). 

What I am trying to say is....we might not be called to go to Africa to be a missionary, but we are called to serve the Lord in whatever we do, and wherever we go!

Yes, (Sometimes) This Is All There Is

World Traveller. Singer. Artist. Missionary. Working in orphanages. Changing lives. Building an empire. Doing "big things". We want (and should!) to strive to do great and big things! And that's ok! We SHOULD have dreams, and want to do big, and glorious things! We can have and do wonderful things right in our neighbourhood, church, work, school, and clubs. We don't HAVE to go all over the world to volunteer, bring Jesus, or help others. We can do it right where we are; where we live; and where we live. 

Although God didn't call us to live "ordinary lives"; He did call us to live "extraordinary lives" where He wants us. Sometimes we (including myself) think that we are only living extraordinary lives when we are in Africa, or in Asia; helping kids; doing missions, or even working (such as in a school, or at company), and well that is certainly true, that isn't necessarily the only thing. Life isn't all about going all over the world; moving across (or up North!) country. It is about the day in and day out of every normal (and not so normal!) day! My life isn't more or less boring that a mom with 5 young kids. My mom's life on the ranch with her garden, ministry work, and her Coaching Business isn't less or more important than my sister's, who is in Asia, helping women and children who have been trafficked. 

Social media doesn't help matters. We see the people doing "all the things"; whether they are across the world, or in some "big" and "important' job. We tend to lose focus on what we "should" (or "shouldn't) be doing. We see people living out their "important" lives, and wonder, "what I am doing with my life", and "is this all there is?". I am here to tell you that, yes, sometimes, this is all there is. And that's ok! We can live out our best life right where we are. We can do big and important things right where we are. We don't have to go anywhere, or be anyone. God can use YOU TODAY! Come as you are; leave better!

It is ok that you are "just" a mom; you can minister just where you are. It is ok that you are "just" a teacher in an ordinary run of the mill school. You can minister just where you are! Change the world you live in (around you), don't try to the change the world (I am not sure if I just made that up, or if I saw that somewhere....but man, that sounds good!)! It doesn't matter whether you are a nurse, doctor, janitor, a pastor; you can serve your community and God no matter how "ordinary" your  life is. You don't need to move to Africa or across your country to have an "adventure"; you can have one in your own backyard; no travel or passport required!

Girls' Night Out

Happy Sunday Funday!!! I have about 11 posts that I may or may not end up writing about and publishing,  but I know I wanted to write about my mom's and my Girls' Night Out that happened on the last day of school!

Mom was going to give a bday dinner the wknd before my bday, but when I got sick, they didn't want me to come out; therefore, putting off my bday dinner. Mom said that I could have her and Dad take Anker and I out for dinner, or she and I could have a girls' night; complete with a hotel stay :) I naturally, decided that we would do GNO! 

We planned on the night on the last day of school (which was a Friday), as that was worked best for her. After my CEA End of the Year Party (you can read about that here), I went straight up to where we were staying (I packed when I got home, so I could leave right after said party). Mom and I called around town, and we ended up staying at the Fairfield Marriott, as it had the best deal, and it had a breakfast in the morning! Sadly, all of the pools in BC were closed at the time (I think most of them have reopened now), due to COVID, but I don't know if we would have gone in, as we were so tired when we got back from dinner. 

Mom did my hair, and my makeup, and then we went to Red Robin, after being a disappointed that we couldn't get in to the restaurant that I wanted to go to. I actually kind of like having restaurants at half-capacity; it is quieter, and it is less busy! We started off with the tower of onion rings, and deep fried shrimp, which were both really good!!! I got the salmon burger with fries, and my mom had a Caesar salad with salmon. A very interesting thing happened with Mom's salmon. You can read about that as she talked about it on her blog. We ended off sharing dessert, called Chocolate Fruffles (yes, that is the real name of the dessert!), which was delicious!!!

Mom and I came back to our hotel. We were SO tired by the time we got back. We visited for a bit, and then we watched the last bit of Dateline, and fell asleep. 

We woke up at around 8 or so the next morning, and we quickly got ready for breakfast. It was really good!!!! Tiny waffles, yogurt, strawberries, sausage patties, and cereal! After breakfast, we packed up and left at around 10 or so. 

Sadly, I was in a REALLY weird place on Saturday; I was tired, and anxious, and just all around in a weird mood. I felt better after some shopping therapy, but I was still really tired.

All in all, it was a great evening, night and morning with Mom, and MUCH needed!!!! We even were able to pick up the food that we had left from the night before, as they hadn't cleaned our room yet!

Hacks of Life-Randoms Pt 2 (Aka: Things No One Will Care About)

So, I have a few more things I just HAVE to say :) Feel free to skip this post :)

We have found a way to keep cool at night (along with our fan); we put ice packs in our bed, and it works great!

We have been having this weird smell coming from our car for a few weeks, and we have no clue what it is, but the car is working, so we will carry on with driving it. It smells like vinegar. And it isn't even all the time.

We continue to have free laundry. We aren't sad about it.

I continue to have my movie afternoons/evenings with Emily. We usually have yummy snacks and drinks. It is also a way for to me to watch my old movies (I also need some movies that were made in this decade!). I also watch movies (and my favourite tv series') on my laptop at night; which is another way for me to go through my movies. I find that I don't watch movies over again like I used to. I have Netflix, cable, VOD, and movies from the library to watch.

I am horrible at checking my blood sugar. I need to do better at it.

I also need to find a doctor, as we haven't had one for a year.

I am loving the nectarines (well, the two that I bought), berries and frozen fruit that I have been getting. I use the frozen fruit for smoothies :)

A week or so ago, I went for a walk with the boys. I took them to Starbucks, and J stayed in his stroller until we got to a place where it was a bit safer for him to walk on his (he RUNS!!!). We had a fun little walk together. I think I stayed there for a while, and we had Wendy's for supper (Speaking of which, our local Wendy's burnt down in March or April; I hope they will rebuild it, as it was a pretty popular place, and it is nice to have one on this side of town).

I also found out that they might built a Starbucks close to my house. I don't know how that would work, since I heard that they are going to close 200 SB stores. I can almost guarantee that a few of our stores here in town will close.

I have been having coconut milk in some of my SB cold drinks, and it is really good, so I decided to buy some, and I really am enjoying it! Yum!

I still can't get to starting up my resume, and look for work, I have been feeling really unmotivated and discouraged about it. That being said, though, I did just today signed up with Job Bank to get alerts, etc. I have never actually have gotten an account with them before. I only have just searched for jobs.

I have been trying to grow my bangs out for years, and they have been driving me crazy! I also need to get a hair cut.

I also need to get new runners.

I am house/cat/garden sitting this weekend. It is glorious, y'all!! I don't seem to be doing well sleeping on her couch, however.

I went to the dentist the other day; I didn't need to pay for the cleaning :) Yay!

I got Downton Abbey and "Harriet" from the library, and I watched "Harriet", and it was amazing! I want to buy that movie.

I have also been getting the People Magazine free from my friend. She works at the student house at our local university, and 5 students who are no longer there are still getting their People Magazine, which she gives over to me.

With all this rain we have been getting (yes, it rained today....AGAIN!!), the river is still very high. I think it is slowly going down, so that's good.

Cilantro is gross. The end.

I had coffee with my aunt on Friday. I can't wait until we are allowed to sit in ALL restaurants and coffee shops again.

The weekly magazines that used to come on Friday, are now coming the following Wednesdays. Not sure if it is be/c of Covid or not. It is kind of annoying; I liked having the magazines come on Friday.

Anker got me a dash and reverse cam for our car, but I don't think we will use them. We are going to have to get someone to put in the reverse cam, and we don't really have that kind of money right now.

I am having an online Sipology Party on Monday. I also got some stuff from my other friend's party. I love the Canadian Maple Latte! I also got some Magical Mango Tea. I got Mom a couple of teas for her to try.

I also got some fun things the other day; I found some Maple Latte Creamer, and it is SO GOOD! I also got a pencil sharpener for my eye liners. It works pretty well! I bought some nuts that were a good deal. I like to have something like nuts for some protein and when I want a snack. I got some sour candy/mints, They are delicious!

My girls group from when we all went to the same church got together for a bday/summer party on Friday. We had a lovely dinner, with lots of laughs, a game, and we even got a gift :)

I had a CT scan a few weeks ago to check to see if had any more fluid. I wish they could just invent a pill that one could swallow that was filled with dye. They couldn't get the dye in me AGAIN this time. I don't have any fluid, but I do have some cysts. The specialist is ordering me an ultrasound, but I am sure it is fine.

I hate peri/pre-menopause. The end.

I love rainbows :) I saw a double one the other day, and I guess there was a double one tonight, but I only caught the last bit of it.

Technology is weird. Last night, my phone was plugged into my computer and it didn't charge like it should have. Tonight, guess what? It works!

Anyone else find that they get obsessive about their blog posts; what to post; pictures, etc, and have to post ALL THE THINGS????r

Friday Favourites/Randoms

Ummm...I hadn't done an FF in AGES! I had a Covid FF post that I was going to post, but I never did..anyway...I have a few things...probably more than 5...that I am loving right now!

I had NO IDEA that the adaptive screen brightness was a thing until the other day. Y'all, I am LOVING it!!!! And yes, I think it officially makes me a nerd.

I am having my fair share of coolers and ciders lately. I love my Growers Cider, and I also love Okanagan Cider. I am also looking forward to when they put out the Saskatoon Berry flavour! Oh Canada, indeed! Yum!!!! Because it is so sweet, and it doesn't take like alcohol, I have to be careful to only drink it when I know that I won't be driving, and not to have one every day (but ONLY ONE when I do!).

Speaking of nerd, I have had a MAC laptop for a few years, and I only JUST NOW (well, a few days ago) got an Apple ID. I doubt that I will ever use it, but hey...I feel like an adult now!

I took the boys for a few hours on Wednesday. We had a picnic in the park, and we went to a local petting zoo. Even though I am from a ranch, and I grew up around animals, I still kind of enjoy seeing other animals. The boys had a blast!

My laptop was giving grief; we think it was b/c of the track pad. Our Brother-in-Law helped me out the other day. He disabled the track pad while I am using the mouse. Anker had one that he wasn't using, and since we disabled the pad, the problem seems to have gone away. He also helped me adding a program to help with bad Malware, and he also encouraged me to use DuckDuckGo vs Google! We also discovered that I was using a bad search engine.

I got a new screen protector on my phone today! It looks so shiny and new! I love it!

Popeye's ChickenY'all, I might have had it three times in less than 2 weeks. It is SO GOOD!!! 

I am going to house/cat/garden sit for a friend for a few days. Yay for alone time!

I got a GC to/for a few places (it is one of those Combo GCs....they are 6 stores on it), and I bought some mags a special Royal Family book from People. I still have a few more dollars left on it, and I nearly went back there today, but I decided to go again another time.

I have been enjoying sitting outside in my chair and reading. I always have a lawn/camping chair with me, so I sit in it in the sun; by the water, or in the park and read. I love it!

My mom and I went on/for a Girls' Night a few weeks ago. I will pos about that soon! We had a fun time.

We love our new floor :) I will post about that, too! It makes the house so much brighter!

I am sort of liking matcha. My tea lady gave me a few TO GO Matcha sticks, and I have to say, that they aren't that bad!

I bought some tops and some bras from Penningtons few weeks ago. Sadly, one of the bras has ran off, and I am MAD, b/c I really liked it. I hope and prays that it turns up soon. I also bought a top from the local thrift store.

I also have been building my DVD movie collection. I gave all my VHS tapes away (yes, I still had some left!), and now I want to add most of those movies back in DVDs. It may take years. But I hope to get more.

It is "Christmas in July" on W Network. I have seen most of the movies, but it is fun to have them on, when I am just hanging around.

Things have opened up again. I am mostly super pumped. Church is also back, and I am enjoying that. Our library will be opening up soon, but it will only be to pick up your holds, browse and there will be a time limit. Boo, but at least it's something (I am loving the Take Out Service they have!).

I bought some make up from Sephora; both the day after my bday (along with my free bday gift!), and I bought some eye palette's a few days ago. I love them all! The eye shadows are so light and summery! I think they go really well with my complexion.

Succulents are my new favourite plant. I have 3 now, and so far, they are alive!

We are starting to get things from our garden. Anker made 3 jars of jam from our strawberries, and I have eaten a bunch as well; and we have peas on their way. We already have had spinach. I am not sure what else he planted.

I am trying to eat healthier, and walk a bit more. Yah, we will see how long that goes for!

Our oven has been dead for a few weeks, and we are waiting for them to get us another one. I hope it's soon! We have been using our Toaster Oven, stove and microwave.

I forgot to skip a week on Chef's Plate, so we got sent one week. Tonight's was fish tacos. Other than that bad avocado, and cilantro, it was really good! 

I got some retro pay that my work owed me. Yay! We also got our GST $!

I know there was something that I was going to post about on a Friday Fave, but I don't remember what it was. I know that I was going to say something like..."I am probably the last person in the world to..eat/drink/watch this...", but of course, I can't remember what it was/is now!

I am trying to get my mom into loose leaf tea. Poor muffin. She is still doing bagged tea. My friend and I have been trying to expand her tea-izons....:) I am having an online tea party this Monday, and I am "making" my mom attend. Ha! I love Sipology, and I might have bought my mom some tea for her to try. 

I have had coffee with a few friends this week, which has been nice :) I love that we are relaxing things a bit more, but on the other hand, I think we need to be careful not to be too relaxed. However, I am so over everything!! 

I got to chat with my sister today! She lives in Asia, you know :) She is adulting so hard, and like a boss, too!! I am so proud of her!

I bought some sheets  and a duvet cover from Jysks the other week. I love them! The cover was $8, and the sheets were $15. The sheets are so soft...I think they call it "brush style".

I tried some nail wraps a few weeks ago. They didn't go well. I am sad.

There is a new sushi place opening up in our area of town soon! I cannot believe how many sushi places this town has! My friend and I are going to go and try it as soon as possible!

We tried the new Tasty Fully Cooked Burgers from M&M Food Market, and they are really good! They do have a different texture, but they still taste good! Their fish sticks are also really good!

It is so weird to not have the normal festivals and gatherings that normally happen around here. At least the Farmers' Market is still happening!! At first, I didn't think it was wise for them to continue with it this year, but now I am kind of glad they are. I might go down and take a look on Saturday.

I need to get my eyes checked. I hate that I have to pay for it. I know, I am spoiled here in Canada.

I still don't have a primary care physician, so I might have to go to my parents' doctor 2 hours away. We have both been on the wait list for a year. Fun times. 

Anker and I went on a walk the other night. We also had a picnic with A and K in their living room a few weeks ago :) I will sometimes sit outside and read while Anker tends the garden :) Man, do I sound like an old lady or what?

When Things No Longer Give you Joy

Instagram, blogging, journalling, and yes, even reading used to give me so much joy. I would get so much enjoyment from posting IG, blogging, etc. However, in the last few months, those things no longer give me as much joy as they used to.

 So, I ask the question. What do you do when things you used to enjoy no longer bring you as much fun, joy, or relaxation? Do you quit doing them? Do you do them differently? Do you stop doing them for awhile, and then pick them up a few weeks or months? 

What does it mean when these things no longer give you (or spark!) joy? Does it mean that it is the end of a season/era for you? Does it bother you when this happens? What do you do? Do you start another hobby/business?

To be honest, I am kind of bothered that these don't bring me joy. I have been journalling since I was 12 or 12. I have gone through A LOT of journals! And yes, I keep them! I used to journal about once a week. The last time I journaled was 2 months ago. I used to LOVE journaling. It gave me peace, calm, and clarity (that sounds so New Agey!). There is something fulfilling about writing down your thoughts, desires, dreams and your day to day things. Now? I wouldn't say that I couldn't be bothered, but there always seems that there are things I want to do MORE. Like today, I went to Starbucks to get grab a mocha, and I had every intention of journalling. But, what did I do? I picked up a magazine! 

I used to love blogging! I just have felt "bleh" in that department. The words and subjects don't seem to come as easy as they used to. No one wants to read; I rarely get comments; and NO ONE wants to give me free stuff! Ha!!!! I don't feel that I have found that niche in the blogging world. It was infertility, but who wants to hear about that all the time? I have a general reading blog, and I think it is OKAY, but not great. I only have 38 followers. and only a few read each of my posts. So, I kind of am bummed about it, and I am stumped as to where I should "go" with this blog. or if I should even just throw in the towel, and forget it. I DO like writing, which is why I have kept up this blog for so long. I like "meeting" new people through blogiverse, and IG world. I also want to encourage others who may not have things "perfect", and who maybe don't have life all figured out. 

Like most things (cleaning, exercise), once I get into doing it, I generally enjoy it, and I often end up doing more (reading, cleaning, journalling, exercising) than I initially planned on doing. And once I start doing those things, I am thinking, "why don't I do this (whatever it might be) more often?". There is something relaxing about journalling, blogging, and reading. 

IG is another area where I used to really like it (and I still do, I guess), but I am feeling a bit discouraged by it. Yes, it is ONLY Social Media, and probably the least "important" of all the things that like to do, but I really had hoped to have a few more people following (only 1500, but I guess it's better than 38 blog followers!!!), and I had hoped to have had a few collaborations and sponsors by now (I guess that is the same with my blog as well). I tend to post ANYTHING (well, mostly) and EVERYTHING, and I also tag a lot of businesses, in hopes of getting some "sponsored" posts.  Yah, no..nothing yet! As with blogging, I don't really have a niche in the IG world. I don't have kids; I am not into fitness; I am not young and hip; I don't really even do makeup lives anymore (But I think I will start doing that again). I don't have a business or a "brand". I just am an ordinary person living an/her ordinary life. I do try to be real and honest in my posts; I can't stand prefect-perfect people! I actually blogged a bit about it here). So, maybe that can be my thing? Being honest, open, and real? :) Hmmm.....:)

I have, however, given myself grace when it comes to these things. I have tried to not let it worry me too much. Other than the journalling (which actually does kind of bother me, as that I sort of part of who I am), I haven't really given myself a TOO hard a time when it comes to (not) doing these things. I think it is just the time and season that I am not feeling into doing these things. The time where maybe God is saying to let go, and not worry about it, or to focus on other things. Or just to let them be; let myself go, and not be bothered or pressured into do these things. Like most things in life...they disappear for awhile, then you bring them out/up again (or you don't like/like something again)....life keeps changing, WE keep changing. I guess I have to roll with it :)

I think the top pic is from Valentine's Day, and the bottom is from who knows when. I saved it to my laptop May 11, 2020, so I guess it isn't that old! I DO LOVE and enjoy bubble baths and chocolate and champagne!

A Day in the Life: Birthday Edition

Well, it is now a month to the DAY from my bday, so I guess I had "better" do this, or delete it :) I thought instead of doing a day in the life like a usually do a few times a year, and a normal "birthday" post, I would combine the two :)

So...here ya go (hopefully, I remember everything that I did!) I am doing going to do an hour by hour post, b/c I didn't get any photos from the moment that I woke up..but I think I will start from when I left for work.

7:30 am (approx): Happy birthday to MMMEEEE! I wake up and get ready for the day. I put on makeup :)

8:15: I leave for the day...but first, a birthday selfie :)

8:30: Arrive at school to gifts.

8:40: Open gifts.

8:30-10:00 Work. I think it was a good day, from what I can remember :) Ha!

10:30: Go and pick up my friend and her cat to take to the vet. I know...fun times. I am a nice friend..what can I say?

11:30: I drop her off, and I go up the hill to get my driver's licence renewed. I am in an out in 15 minutes.

12:00: Pick up my friend, and we head home. I come home to some cards to open, and I hang out with Calico for a bit.

12:45: I don't remember when it was, if it was on my birthday, or the day before, but I bought some mags, and put them on Anker's account, b/c he didn't get me any bday gifts :) He did, however, make me a cake :)

1:00: Open cards. One is from my mom, and the other from my aunt (or my gramma).

Hang out for a bit, and I scroll on FB; looking at and responding to my HBD messages :)

2:00 (approx): We head on over to A and Ks for cake and tea. They give me a card and a GC to/for Starbucks.

The cake is good!!! It was a berry angel cake.

4:00: We head back home. My friend texts me to say that she has left something at our front porch. 

Isn't that cute?? I love it!!! It is a mug, and inside, there is a succulent plant. They are my new favourite thing. "Eh" is something that we Canadians say a lot...and it is a play on "A" team (as both our names start with the letter "A").

4:15: My other friend texts me to say that she has something for me, and she is on her way to drop it off. I try to have a nap. 

4:30: She arrives at around 4:30, and we chat for a bit. 

She gives me another plant (hilarious!), and also another GC to/for Starbucks. My friends and family know me so well!

4:45: After she leaves, I try to have another nap. It doesn't go well :) But I enjoy my birthday nap/laydown just the same.

5:45: I decide to head over to Starbucks to get my free bday drink :)

        I got Strawberry Acai Refresher with Coconut milk. Yum!

6:00: I head on over to the park to read some magazines for a bit. It is a bit chilly (despite the sun), so I enjoy reading in the car.

7:30: I end up going to look after the boys, b/c it is also A and Ks anniversary. They didn't ask; I offered. I just hang out and relax...the boys are are in bed. I play on my phone, and I watch something on NF (I think...I can't remember).

11:00: I INSIST on ending the day drinking something fun and fruity from my Happy Birthday Glass :) I don't know what I drank exactly; probably wine, or some of a cooler....but it was good. I end the day catching up on my HBD messages. 

All in all, I think it was a pretty good bday!!! So, there you have it! I didn't

t do anything fun or exciting, but it was ok!!! I think as an adult, I put less stress on myself and others to  do something "big" on/for my birthday (or other special days, like Valentine's Day, or our Anniversary). I find if I don't put too much stock in the day, then I am less disappointed. I think I am growing up!

Randoms

I hate my computer today. It doesn't like me. It is giving me ALL KINDS of problems! The screen is having an anxiety attack :)

So...here are some randoms...

5 years ago, we went to Victoria, and I never blogged about it. We both had a wonderful time, and I really want to move there...for realz. We spent a few days there; I went to the mall, and to the Christian book store (that may have been more than once), and I saw my SIL Amanda and the girls. I think Luke joined A and I for lunch in a square al fresco, then Amanda and I went wandering around.

Christmas 2018, Anker and I went to Victoria. We flew there on Christmas Day, which was a first for both of us. We had a wonderful time. Anker and his sister went off on a field trip and I saw L and his family. We had a wonderful time! We went on a walk on the beach by the Ocean, and I again I started dreaming about moving there! We came home on the 30th (?), to SNOW and ICE! That part was NOT FUN! If you want to see pictures from both trips, you can check on my IG. You will have to go a LOOOONG way back, b/c I post way too much!

I think I posted about Christmas 2019, but I didn't post about NYE. I think we came back on the 27th or 28th, and I ended up house/animal sitting for some friends. The plan was for them to come on the 31st, but the roads were so bad, that the came home the next day. I stayed in alone, drank fun drinks, ate fun foods, and I watched TV. I am not sure what we did after the 1st until I went back to school. I think we just stayed home and relaxed.

The first week of summer holidays were pretty good. I house/dog sat for my friend. I had a great time; ereading on her deck, and hanging with her dog. I went to Starbucks, got some clothes, and I got magazines (I didn't get clothes from Starbucks!). I got a $50 combination GC, and one of the places was to Indigo/Chapters (another great Canadian store!), where I bought some magazines, including a special PEOPLE Royalty book. 

I took the boys out to the ranch for 3 days last Thursday - Saturday. Their kitchen is still be Reno'd, due to a leak two months ago, and K wanted to be around while they were working on it. I had a nice (albeit busy!) time, and Mom and I tag-teamed to look after J. It rained A LOT while were were there! Like, A LOT!!!! We came back into town on Saturday, and I grabbed Anker, and we had a picnic at A and Ks house with them. We had A&W, and they had food from another local place. We had a lovely visit, and Anker seemed to enjoy being out (Yes, I had to twist his rubber arm!).

I have had a couple of movie nights with Emily, which has been fun. I took out my friend, P on a couple of occasions, and we have had some fun times out on the town, and we played a few card games at her house.

Things are starting to open up around here. Some places (like some Starbucks) are open to half capacity, and most places have reopened, if only for take out. McDonald's is open (half), and my friends and I met up for coffee, on Sunday, which was nice. The library is starting their reopening process, and that makes me very happy!

I have started on my resume. I hate doing them, but at least I found my old resume, so I can work from that. I don't have my old one on my computer, because I have had two or three computers since I wrote my last resume. I also now have a MAC, which wouldn't have been able to save anyway.

Speaking of new clothes (see above), I bought two tops from a local store, and I also got two bras, and a shirt that I found out later was actually a PJ top. 

I have been "bad" at two things lately, buying magazines and buying coolers/ciders (what IS the difference btwn the two, anyway??). YUM!!! I like having them with my Sipology/Steeped Tea, and/or sparking water. Yum!

Canada Day was weird. It rained, and with nothing happening (which we probably wouldn't have gone to, anyway), it just felt like an ordinary day. I did dress in red and white, which was fun :) I was also fairly productive, as I got a few things done, so that is good. There weren't even any fireworks, which I thought might have happened, but nothing did. I think if A and Ks house wasn't under construction, I think we probably would have gone over there. She and I love our holidays! Anker and I ran out to get a few Canada-only snacks, and we just hung out. I spent a lot of the day doing what is new the first part of the Canada Day post. We had poutine for supper, and I had a bubble bath. 

I have decided not to apply to/for CERB, so I am a bit stressed about $, but I have a TINY bit of $ put away, so we should be ok. I spent 4 hours on hold with CRA (IRS), wanting to ask a question, and I FINALLY got the answer. Yay! We have been able to have some relief with not paying some things; my Student Loan, and our car insurance. I am pretty sure the car insurance will start up again. We got a bit of extra GST $ in April, and another small (but larger than normal) one coming up.

I tried some nail wraps that my friend gave me. She gave them to me in the spring in a gift (Wine Fairy) basket. I tried, and oh my...it did not turn out well. I was sad b/c I was really excited about trying them, too.

I was reading a lot of books, but lately, I have been reading more magazines. I still have a few books that I am toting, so I hope to get to them soon.

Anker and I might go on a hike this summer. But first, we need to go for walks to build up on our endurance. 

I took the boys to Starbucks and on a walk today. It was nice to get a small walk in :) I love my nephews. They have my heart.

The W Network is having a "Christmas in July" event next week, and you can bet that I will be all over that!!

I thought I had skipped every week this summer for Chef's Plate, but I got a nice email (on my phone!!),  and I checked it in the middle of the night last night, and they said that they were sending us a box. All but one meal looks good.

Our oven died, and we are looking for a new one. Anker said that element went white hot. I was at my friends, so I didn't get to see or hear this phonomenim. At least we have our toaster oven! It uses less heat, anyway.

I know have my main email on my phone, and it kind of feels weird. Until I started my last job, I never had emails on my phone. It opened up a whole new world for me (along with Google Docs!). I can see why people get stressed with having their email on their phones, though. My work email wasn't so bad, but my personal email gets a lot.

I think that is all the random tidbits for now :) The rest, I will try to do an individual blog post, IF and when my computer gets fixed. The funny thing is, I haven't really been feeling the blogging vibe lately, and now that I have, well, I can't, due to computer problems. Grr!